Thursday, July 12, 2007

Loving What Is

Out of nowhere, like a fresh breeze in a marketplace crowded with advice on what to believe, comes Byron Katie and what she calls “The Work.” In the midst of a normal life, Katie became increasingly depressed, and over a ten-year period sank further into rage, despair, and thoughts of suicide. Then one morning, she woke up in a state of absolute joy, filled with the realization of how her own suffering had ended. The freedom of that realization has never left her, and now in Loving What Is you can discover the same freedom through The Work.

The Work is simply four questions that, when applied to a specific problem, enable you to see what is troubling you in an entirely different light. As Katie says, “It’s not the problem that causes our suffering; it’s our thinking about the problem.” Contrary to popular belief, trying to let go of a painful thought never works; instead, once we have done The Work, the thought lets go of us. At that point, we can truly love what is, just as it is.


botz said...

dear sisters,

byron katie's web site has amazing short therapy sessions that allows you to witness transformation in action. a person presents their problem or challenge ("i hate my body", or "it's all so-and-so's fault", or "i need more money", etc.) and through the process of inquiry she asks three or four questions:

Is this true?
Is this the absolute truth?
how does this thought in your life make you feel?
what would your life be like without this thought?

her approach and the simplicity of the process is what makes the difference. even though she calls herself a lover of reality, her method is not harsh. she just likes to bust open the illusions and does so with compassionate and heart.

confession: i have not read this book...but i sure have gleaned deep treasures from her web site sessions. you can even download work sheets to use if you're having a challenge and want to work it through.

botz said...

dear sisters,

NOW i have read this book and have been doing "The Work" on many stressful thoughts that come up in the day. some thoughts manifest as tiny contractions and discomforts in the belly or my heart. i take them to the worksheets. some lead to deep underlying beliefs that have caused suffering within myself and my relationships.

but when presented with the four questions and the turn-around these stressful thoughts and places of fear or even little irritations and annoyances, are being dismantled and transformed...simply by examining and inquiring about their contents. my thinking and my reactions stemming from those thoughts are radically changing. this process is fascinating to me.

it's the great undoing!!!

love, b